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The song

A song travels well. It turns up on its own, while you are driving or washing up, which is close to when you would actually want these questions.

So the four questions are a song. It is 57 seconds long. The chorus is only four words, and each one is the stressed word inside its question.

The lyric video (1:00)

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The Four Questions (0:57)

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The extended version (2:17)

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Here are four questions that can help in hard conversations.

What do you think?
What's shaped your thinking on that?
How are you feeling about it?
And what would make it better?

Here's the whole thing in four words.

Think. Shaped. Feeling. Better.
Think. Shaped. Feeling. Better.

Now you try.

What do you think?
What's shaped your thinking on that?
How are you feeling about it?
And what would make it better?

Think. Shaped. Feeling. Better.
Think. Shaped. Feeling. Better.

Think. Shaped. Feeling. Better.
Think. Shaped. Feeling. Better.